Ex's Exess

Dear Kitty -

As many of us here on your page do have EX's that we have offspring with I wanted to ask this.... 

My ex has started dating someone (well it's been few a 

someones). I'm upset that my ex introduced these 

someone's  to our children very quickly -  what is the right 

amount of time before you should introduce your children to 

a boyfriend/girlfriend?  Do I have the right to demand to 

meet this person who will be around my children?

- Concerned Casey

Dear Concerned Casey -

Legally, (and remember I only play an attorney on televison)

I do not think you have a leg to stand on... so I hope

you have a comfy chair.  You can however ask him nicely;

you do risk him just assuming you are jealous. All you can 

do is be an example on your side of things.  When the kids

aren't with you, you cannot control what he is deciding to do 

as a parent.

I guess my first thought is -->

If you have an okay relationship and can co-parent well, just 

ask nicely and try not to come across like you want to kill 

him for being a freaking space cadet about this.  

My next thought is -->

If you do not get a long you should consider just ignoring it.  

I know that you have your children's best interest in mind, 

but causing waves and a fight with the ex will effect the kids 

too.

Another thought -->

If you plan to try and get him to let you meet the new 

women first --> make sure you are okay with that too.  

Anyone you have the kids around that he doesn't know he 

needs to meet first as well.  

I had a friend who went through this on and off for

3 years.  Her man finally settled down.  

All you can do be a good mom to them and not worry.  

Now if you think these multitudes of women are all

crack whores or something dangerous, maybe 

call the authorities.  You unfortunately cannot stop him 

from dating stupid girls.  It's his prerogative.

Or.... and I save the big OR for last...

Mace the ex each time he does this.  He will eventually stop 

dating all together due to his eyes being in constant burn 

mode and the feeling as if he has hot lava pouring down his 

face.

OR

How about a nice glass of Jack or Jose' and hot 

bath...maybe you two can rekindle the love?

OR...

Give me his number, I will call him up and explain calmly 

who I am and why I am now in charge of his every

move.  I am sure that will work!!!

OR (and last OR):

When we march on the Zombies we can hit his place too!!

I think I have lost my mojo!  I plan to take that back too when I see your ex on our march to eliminate the Zombie threat.  I am assuming he stole it by being such an ass-hat.  I am guessing a few Manalopes and/or Bitchachos will pipe in as well.  

In the end you are stuck with this ass-hat and his trolling penis ways until he settles down.

*~*~Kitty~*~*