I am married now for 12 years and am so out of the dating
scene. I would not know where to
start. I know you are recently single,
not sure if you are dating or not. What
I am trying to say is this…I have a friend who is single and she and I were
talking about her experiences as we do each week and catching up. Then she started to talk to me about being
afraid to get pregnant so she just gives oral sex. I almost fell out of my chair. I asked her what about disease? What about coming off like a blow job
whore? I upset her. I was so shocked that she would even think in
this day in age to be doing that with someone she isn't invested in or a
relationship with. I know I handled it
wrong by freaking out. I need to know
how to talk to her and how get her to see she is not only disrespecting herself
but she is putting her life in danger.
Mary
Dear Mary,
Thanks for writing in to us.
I can see your frustration. Oral
sex is no joke for sure. I once knew a
girl who got a neck injury while in the act. No joke, she was a mess for a week!! Serious stuff.
While I see your concern for your friend, and yes she is
being a fucking idiot, I think you need to mind your own business. If she wants to live the whore life and get
clap to the mouth or herp of the gums, it’s her prerogative. As her friend if you are uncomfortable
talking to her about it ask her to keep her hooker-a-thon stories to
herself. Otherwise it’s your own
fault. No need to be mad her. She is likely just not so bright. There is no true “safe” sex. There is enough education and talk about it
in the states that I think she should know best and knows the facts but is just
ignoring them. I am not sure why you
would want to know how to talk to her.
If it was my friend I would say this, “You are acting like a whore, don’t call me when your teeth fall out and you cannot swallow from the clap!” and I would leave it at that.
If it was my friend I would say this, “You are acting like a whore, don’t call me when your teeth fall out and you cannot swallow from the clap!” and I would leave it at that.
Bottom Line:
Not your life, mouth or sex life. Either you accept her for who she is or you
don’t. You decide but set boundaries
with conversations otherwise it’s your own damn fault. Got it?
Good.
Might be you are a little jealous she is out and about?
Think about it.
Why would you be so upset like this?
Yes, you may be concerned for her health, but this isn’t your teenager we are talking about.
By the way, you’re welcome.
Now go get some and be grateful the person you are getting some from is
the same person each time.
Smoochie,
Kitty
P.S. Kitty is perfectly happy being single to answer your wonderment on my dating life. I am having a love affair with, ME!
