Woman's Intuition

Dear Kitty’s Sarcasm,

I am worried that my boyfriend is cheating on me.  There have been all the signs, but I cannot prove it.  He is deleting his call history, he has been taking calls and then all of a sudden having to run to the store for something and just coming back with a pop or a candy bar.  He decided to stay home all last weekend when we had a camping trip planned with a bunch of friends and insisted that I still go.  I normally don’t go through his phone but it’s been weird lately so I did and noticed his call history cleared, checked it again the next day and same thing.  I have that feeling in my gut.  We have been together for coming up on two and half years. We moved in together about nine months ago.  What should I do?  I am afraid to ask because I hate conflict and am worried it will cause a fight.  I have no proof.  I do not think I can go on like this. 

I am freaking out.  I am looking for real advice here.  I know you have a page that is for humor and I expect some of that, but if you have gone through this or have real advice I would love some of that too.

Worried Woman

Dear Worried Woman –

A woman’s intuition is usually right, I said usually because that is not 100% of the time.  You need to talk to him about it all.  Or you could keep it inside, continue to snoop, drive yourself crazy and put your relationship on self-destruct.  I often wish when reading the emails I get asking for advice that the writers would give me ALL of the information.  

Like: Has he cheated before?  Are you faithful?  Have you cheated before?  What else is going on in your relationship?

With the information you have provided I have given you the two choices I think are best.  If you feel strongly that he is cheating, ask him.  Otherwise it’s your own damn fault.  Communication is key in any kind of relationship.  

If he is cheating, kick him in the balls and pack him a bag.  I have posted a song that comes to mind like I do most of the time.  Enjoy.

Kitty

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Dear Woman Worried –

As a man I can tell you that this sounds fishy.  Behavior changes from anyone should raise a flag.  My question is why is CHEATING the first thing that comes to your mind?  Maybe he is planning a surpise party for you or something.  I don’t know what to tell you.  You are already invading his space.  You might as well ask him about it.  Usually someone who has cheated or is cheating is the accuser.  So think about that.

Norm

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Dear Worried Woman-

Once you start questioning loyalty you have lost any relationship you are in. If he is making you feel like you are not the love of his life then maybe it's time to move on.  Every person deserves to love and be loved without fearing betrayal.  Remember it goes both ways.  Your partner deserves to be loved and be loved, it might just not be with you.

Beulah

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Dear Worried Woman –

 SERIOUSLY….what do you do???KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB!!!! If all of the signs are there, what are you waiting for? A written invitation from God himself? Go to the store with him and buy yourself a clue!

Buttercup